Being transfem online is fucking terrifying. Not just because of the bigots that will bully and stalk you like thats the only thing they do with their sad lives. No, I'm talking about moderation.

Tumblr faced a lawsuit because of how its moderation team targetted transfem accounts which it lost. Despite of that, recently another wave of banning has hit the transfem comunity. For a site that calls itself the 'queerest place on the internet' it sure hates its queer users. Its CEO, Matt Mullenweg, has time and time again showed publicly how transphobic he is, even chasing a transfem user to Twitter, posting information only available to tumblr staff to mock her.

Bluesky isn't too much better, with its moderation team also having transphobic views. Jessie Gender faced issues because of a post in which she 'wished ill' to JK Rowling, a person who has been extremely violent in her discourse against trans people and has yet to face any consequences from moderation. I've personally seen selfies of transfem people be marked as suggestive or adult content, which talks to the bigger issue with any and all sexual topìcs being considered undesirable by all moderation teams, and how femenine and transfemenine bodies are always seen as sexual objects.

I'm not even going to talk about how Twitter is now under the leadership of the richest moron seen by any of us.

There's a fear in the back of my mind that, out of nowhere, one of my accounts will get banned. No way to get it back. Isolated from all the people I've known online. The idea of every trans person online having a 'next of kin' who you should contact in case of banning made the rounds on tumblr. No business is safe from transphobic moderation teams. The Fediverse and its decentralized structure has been the only place I've seen where moderation doesn't become an unavoidable issue.

If you are a transfem person reading this, I don't think being palatable will put you in less danger of being banned. Get a Fediverse account (on a site like Mastodon) and stop worrying about getting banned for being targetted by assholes.

If you want to help better the situation, be open about sexual topics, fight publicly against bannings and give the moderation teams a big 'fuck you'.